We have all been in a relationship and have been left heartbroken. Whether they cheated or were just not into you, the pain of a breakup is REAL.
But, how do you stop obsessing over your ex and move on?
After you’ve called or texted your ex and they no longer pick up and leave you on read, it’s time to move on, the following will help you get it together and finally move on from your ex ( for good)!
Time to Move on! (as much as that hurts)
Moving on can be difficult sometimes, and it is hard to quit your EX cold turkey. You may have had a long or very passionate relationship that just did not work out. Many of us, in an attempt to connect in some way to our old flame, will even ask friends or relatives to spy on their social media accounts to see what they have been up to.
Others may just ask to hang out with mutual close friends to see if they can get any information.
Don’t be ashamed, we have all done this at one time or another
What many of us don’t realize is that while at the time you may get a little boost or a sense of connection while connecting to your ex, you are holding yourself back and reminiscing on the good times you had and not the realities of the relationship.
You are also not letting yourself heal from what was probably a very traumatic end to a relationship.
So what do you do now?
Check out some of the tips that have helped me and others move in a healthy way after a breakup:
- Family/Friends- Your family/friends know you better than anyone and if you are comfortable expressing yourself to them, reach out to them for support. A chat with a loved one can make a world of difference.
- Extra-curricular activities- One of the most important aspects of moving on is finding other things to distract you from the constant thoughts of that lost relationship. You can look for a yoga or cooking class, or watch a free movie at the local park. Anything that can get you out of that depressed mental state, even for a few minutes or hours, can make a big difference within a few days or weeks.
- Exercise- Exercise has been known to release feel-good chemicals and make you feel amazing once you are finished. Even though it feels daunting or feel terrible to get up and dressed, once you leave your home, you will thank yourself for having an improved mental outlook and a healthier body.
- Social Media-Cutting out social may be one of the hardest decisions to make. You may feel you are disconnecting yourself from the world, however, it could be necessary. When you are online it is extremely difficult not took check on your ex’s profile to see if they are having fun, feeling better than you, or if they moved on with someone else. Make sure you delete all his profiles and block your ex from accessing yours. At this difficult time, social media may make it more difficult for you to move on.
- Spiritual Practice– Many people look to spirituality or religion to feel better. If you have a supportive spiritual group you connect with, lean on them for support.
- Mental Health Support- If you are still struggling with the break up it may be time for you to seek professional help. A little support from a therapist is always a wonderful thing. If you are seeking mental health services, click HERE
- Check out the video below, some of these tips I already discussed, but they also have some great ones that may also support you! ENJOY
I hope these tips were able to support you in this challenging time. If you have any comments, questions, or tips that have worked for you, please add a comment 🙂